Friendship

What is true friendship?

Well, to me, it is the act of loving and accepting the person I have chosen to call friend, just the way she is. Loving our time together whenever it comes, not being resentful of time she spends with others, celebrating the successes of her life with her, just as I would expect her to celebrate the successes of mine. It means loving unconditionally and accepting her just the way she is.

That means, in spite of her faults, weaknesses and idiosyncrasies I choose to be her friend…just as I would hope and expect her to continue to unconditionally love me in spite of my faults, weaknesses and idiosyncrasies.

So, if my friend acts in a way, which is consistent with who I have always known her to be, is it right for me to get angry over it? After all, it is not her behavior that has changed; it is just that her behavior didn’t match up to my expectations of her in a certain situation.

So, who has failed the friendship?
Is it her, who has remained consistently who she has always been or is it me, the one who has changed my definition and expectation of what our relationship is suppose to be?

Is it ok that I place restrictions and demands on her? If she doesn't behave in just the way I want her her to then we cannot be friends anymore? Can I just change the rules of friendship without even informing her of the change in my expectations of her?


Did I fail the "unconditional love" part of the test of friendship? Or did I just fail to be a friend???


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